Its going to be me and her 24/7. One child calling MY name ALL THE TIME. One child talking non stop to ME ALL THE TIME. One child to look to ME as form of her entertainment ALL THE TIME. I am going to be her IT GIRL. No freedom, no escaping to work, pure torture as I see it.
I am trying to turn my stinky thinking around but it is REALLY hard. I try to be 'the nice mom.' I am trying to set a 'schedule.' I even TRYING to create a 'girls summer club,' organizing activities at our house for a handful of her closest friends. Being the nice mom doesn't even seem to work.
It's never enough, she always wants more and it has to be bigger and better. I enthusiastically approach her with my ideas and thoughts and she immediately needs to take control in an aggressive manor, as if I am the enemy. She tells me when it's going to happen, what is going to happen and for how long! HELLO, am I the mother or are YOU? I feel like I have created this monster and I am not really sure how I did it.
It's so hard to not take responsibility for her behavior. I spend a lot of time pondering if it is in fact my fault or is it just another stage and phase that we have to muddle through. Every day seems to be a challange for me in the motherhood department. It's constantly a battle of wills, a push and pull, and argument, a screaming match. I am always feeling defeated. I really do feel out of control. I feel like I walk on egg shells in order to prevent arguments and outbursts that totally stress me out.
I SHOULD be embracing then next half of summer but instead I am dreading it. I feel awful for having these feelings. I just have to take a few deep breaths, chill, let it go, do the best I can to get by and pray that I keep my sanity along the way.
I love my kid to death but she is like no other. It's so hard when we are POLAR opposites. Her thought process and her spirit are so different. That's okay, somehow we just need to have a game plan on how to play on the same team. Figure work together without feeling like we are knocking each other down along the way.
For now I'm going to sit back and crack open my new summer read, 'The Explosive Child', a new approach for understanding and parenting easily frustrated chronically in flexible children. After all I need all the confidence and knowledge I can get to handle the situations that I am put in hourly in a competent and loving manner.
Can someone pass me a beer please? Cheers to the next 5 weeks!
Anyone else faced with the same day to day challenges? How to you cope and keep your sanity at the same time? Please refrain from 'only child syndrome' references as I can't deal with any of that right now.






















